Whether an action is good, bad, or neutral depends principally upon the intention that motivates it. Good actions come from good intentions, bad actions come from bad intentions, and neutral actions come from neutral intentions. Good, or virtuous, actions are the main cause of rebirth in the higher realms, and of future happiness, while bad, or non-virtuous, actions are the main cause of rebirth in the lower realms, and of future suffering.
Geshe Kelsang Gyatso - “Introduction to Buddhism” (via dancingdakini
The more we control our mind, the more our inner peace increases and the happier we become.
The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.
Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as an escape.
We often feel that it is someone else who is making us unhappy, and we can become very resentful. If we look at the situation carefully, however, we will find that it is always our own mental attitude that is responsible for our unhappiness. Another person’s actions make us unhappy only if we allow them to stimulate a negative response in us. Criticism, for example, has no power from its own side to hurt us; we are hurt only because of our self-cherishing. With self-cherishing we are so dependent on the opinions and approval of others that we lose our freedom to respond and act in the most constructive way.